If you have determined, either through a partner’s admission or your own investigation, that your spouse is a sex addict, you are, no doubt, experiencing the pain and emotional upheaval of betrayal, fear and uncertainty. What happens next? Is the relationship ruined? Is it possible to overcome the addiction, the betrayal and the brokenness? Before taking drastic action, it is important to understand a few things about sex addiction, how your partner’s behavior relates to you, and what you can do.
It’s very difficult to have a healthy relationship with an addict. This is especially true if your partner has an addiction to porn. A porn addiction interferes with a person’s ability to have a normal, healthy relationship. If your partner is compulsively viewing porn, then his attention is on it – not on you – even when you’re trying to be intimate with him. To put it another way, he has a relationship with porn that is more important than his relationship with you. It’s not much different than having an affair. Sadly, he can’t have it both ways.